I watch RuPaul's Drag Race on LogoTV. I love it. As I watch it though, I've considered that RuPaul may be a modern philosopher.
She talks about things that I think most people need to take into consideration in their lives. "If you don't love yourself, how the hell're you gonna love somebody else?" This could be considered RuPaul's catch phrase.
There's a lot that one can get from that simple statement. If you don't love yourself, then why are you out looking for someone else to love? You need to work on yourself first. You need to love yourself, no matter what you look like. And isn't it ironic that so much of the love we hold for ourselves is wrapped up in our outward appearance? Very few people love themselves just for being themselves, their looks notwithstanding because looks change. All the time in fact. There are some people who are perfectly gorgeous, and thought to be so by almost everyone, and still don't love themselves. Maybe because they feel that people only love them for their looks.
People should love themselves just because they are who they are. No matter who you are, you'll affect someone else's life, and you'll change someone else's life for the better. There are people on this planet who wouldn't be the same if you weren't in their lives. Love yourself because someone else does.
Now onto the second part of that sentiment above; how the hell're you gonna love somebody else? It's true. If you can't love the one person you're going to be with for the rest of your life (yourself), how can you really, truly love someone else? I'd be afraid that I was looking for validation from that person all the time. That it wouldn't be okay to love myself unless someone else loved me, and since I couldn't love myself, I'd only love them. It doesn't make for a healthy outlook or way to live life. It seems really one-sided. I'd feel like I would resent myself because I would feel like I was constantly in the spotlight for not being perfect, worthy of love. Everyone is worthy of love. Everyone deserves it. But you've gotta understand what love feels like, in order to give it to someone else too.
Everyone has something they don't love about themselves, but no one's perfect. Everyone has a flaw. If all you fixate on is the flaw, you won't be able to see past it to the whole person. Sometimes, people shine so brightly that when you look at the whole picture, the flaw is lost in the splendor. Adele Givens the comedienne said "Flaws aren't shit but unique identifying marks. If you're bucktoothed, relax. Chill out Bucky, baby. You're gonna be alright. Cause I bet there's a man out there who doesn't want anything less than a woman who can bite an apple through a picket fence. If you got a big belly, rub that motherfucker. Love it."
RuPaul also has another quip that gets overlooked, but speaks a home truth: Don't fuck it up.
Don't fuck it up. Simple, to the point, direct. It's true. No matter what your philosophy on the "afterlife" or religious preference, this statement rings. If you think that what you do here on this world has some reflection on what happens to you when you die, then don't fuck it up. It'll come back to bite you on the ass. If you belief that this life isn't a test and that only what you do here matters, then don't fuck it up. It'll impact the rest of your life. Be as good to others as you can. Be good to yourself. Don't be full of spite and anger and resentment and jealousy.
Having those sorts of feelings and thoughts sours whatever you're doing, whatever good feelings you might have. Doing that to yourself, or to others? That's fucking it up big time.
So, everyone, find yourself a drag queen. Be friends with them. They've got a unique perspective on life and most of them will tell you straight (ba dum bish!! thank you thank you, pun intended :D ), even if you don't want to hear it. They're modern philosphers, and RuPaul is their leader.
That is all. Have a lovely Sunday.